Or do you prefer to deny yourself so someone else can be themselves? How much do you bend over backwards so that someone else can appreciate you? But who does they appreciate then? You or your self-denial? And what's actually holding you back from being yourself?
Just recently, I heard again, "So that I can talk to my boyfriend about more than trivial things, we're now talking about his area of expertise. And calculating a lot of formulas. Even though I'm very gifted with languages. And I have absolutely nothing to do with math."
To what extent is it okay to accommodate the other person to find common ground? And where does self-denial begin? Only focusing on one topic so you can have a conversation with the other person? Or changing a hobby because your partner can't do anything with it?
Let's start by standing up for ourselves. And let's allow our partner (whether they're a friend, child, etc.) to be themselves.
How do we feel when someone bends over backwards to gain our favor? Perhaps flattered at first, but later more likely annoyed. When life revolves solely around pleasing others, what remains of the individual ME?
What defines YOU?
Do you know the point at which it's okay for you to accommodate others to find common ground?
Let's look at the whole thing from a professional perspective. Imagine you're passionate about office management and have a job where you can express your true potential. You also enjoy dealing with visitors, answering the phone, and bringing the right people together.
But because there's a staffing shortage in the internal sales department and you highly value the team leader, you agree to provide telephone support. You quickly realize that sales isn't your thing. Do you continue for the sake of your colleague, telling yourself that it's not that bad and that it's a lot of fun, or do you stand up and say that while you were happy to help out as a stopgap, it's not a good fit for you and that this role isn't for you?
"The most important love relationship in my life is the one with myself. Only when I truly love and accept myself can I truly love and accept a partner."
Have you realized that you want to find your way back to yourself, but don't know how? With horse-assisted mental training, we'll find the path that's right for you. With your horse partner by your side, you'll learn to be yourself again. Because only when you're authentic can others perceive you that way.